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In this paper I will be arguing that the romantic idea of sex as an expression of love, leads, very often, to a sense of confusion, frustration and failure in couples. I’ll try and explain why this … [Read more...] about The Romantic Myth of Making Love

Not every therapist either works the same way, or has the same theory about why psychotherapy works.  Clearly, some people can be dismissive of therapy - saying ‘it’s just talking,’ or saying … [Read more...] about How does the ‘taking cure’ work?

Sex as an expression of love 'Sex as an expression of love' is potentially an abusive concept. If sex is an expression of love, it can become a duty. Sex is better seen, not as an expression of … [Read more...] about Some thoughts around sex and love

It is unwise for the therapist to assume that every couple who comes for therapy wants change. It is often the case that a couple want, instead, for me to restore a recently-lost equilibrium. Their … [Read more...] about The complaint contract in couples